“When we don’t get what we want, we are more acutely aware of eternity.  We are more apt to remember God.  We learn what it really means to trust him.  We remember the bigger story.  When we don’t get what we want, we have to deal with our inner restlessness.  We have to face ourselves and our addictions.  We have to deal with the various “medications” we use to cope with life.  When we started these changes at Oak Hills, we put spiritual formation on the front burner, and the first thing that we saw that needed to be transformed was this raging desire to always get what we want (117) .”